The Truth about Selfies


It seems like everyone is taking selfies these days. Everywhere I look there are photos of people, staring into a camera (the women usually hold it way over their head so they are looking up – them men tend to take it more at eye level or a tad higher – yes, a pattern has been identified), eyes wide and a portion of their arm on the side or bottom.

Obvious selfies.

So, since this has become an epidemic, let’s talk about it, the implications and possible consequences.

The majority of selfies out there are nothing more than self-glorification. It is vain, narcissistic and intended to incite a response by sexual or romantic interests. The high angle of the camera by most women arches the back and raises the head, tossing it back – very sexual in nature.

And men aren’t much better. But men seem to just want women to look at them and lust after them. They don’t do the ’presentation’ that women do. But the same pretense is there.

Ladies, it doesn’t matter how much you protest, the fact is still there. Selfies are sensual and are intended to invoke a sexual response whether it is through simple attention and complimenting or something more.

How do I know this? Well, in my younger years I modeled – then I was a fashion photographer. Sex was my business. The way you position yourself for your selfies is the same way I positions many a model for the sexy, sensual shots.

And it was intended to create lust.

Claim you are showing off an outfit? Stand in a mirror and take the photo. You don’t need to hold the phone way over your head so you are presenting – can’t see the outfit anyway.

Oh, you’re showing off your hairstyle? Well, can you tell me how a full face photo of you with your head thrown way back (presenting) shows your hair? Yeah, it doesn’t. Maybe a little in the front, I’ll give you that, but no, not showing much of the hair. If you really wanted to show the hairstyle you would take a picture of the actual hairstyle – from the side and back.

The pouty lips and flowing long hair – all very sensual. Trust me, honey; it was my job to make women look as sensual as possible in photos. Whether you intend to be sensual or not, you are doing it.

Look, I am not coming down hard on anyone and a respectable selfie here and there is one thing. But when your timeline is riddled with them,(and for those of you who do not understand the concept of moderation, that would be in the neighborhood of more than 1 or 2 every couple of weeks), well, then you just may have a self-glorification problem.

Just. Say. No. To Selfies!


graphic by bplanet



Washington Monument - Tribute

I was looking at some older photos this morning and reminiscing. I have pictures of my kids at different point in the city. I have some awesome shots of D.C.

It made me a little homesick.

We can’t go back now, but someday…maybe…

Have you ever been so homesick for somewhere that just looking at pictures makes you feel a sad longing for another time?

I know there is a reason my life is going in this direction, but sometimes I just get a little homesick.


Cruising the back roads…


I have found so many interesting things around here while just driving around. Discovered this little treasure on a back road. I got some full shots and in color, but this was one of my favorites. I just love old firetrucks, don’t you?


Cooper River Bridge photo by Stephanie A. Mayberry

Cooper River Bridge photo by Stephanie A. Mayberry


I like lines. I prefer lines and right angles over rounded corners. Guess that is the Aspie in me. I like the cleanness of lines, the straightness, the order.

I also really like overcast days. I KNOW that is an Aspie thing! The sun is way too bright, sometimes even if I wear sunglasses. I like it when the clouds hide the sun.

This is one of my favorite photos. I took it while my husband was driving across the Cooper River Bridge in South Caroline. It is a very pretty bridge, an impressive structure.

I also like this photo because that was a very good day. I like good days, don’t you?

Take my hand…

take my hand“Take my hand,” he said. “I won’t let you fall.”

She looked up at him, her green eyes peering into his as she searched his face. Could she trust him? So many had let her fall.

He smiled, his hand still outstretched toward her. No words were needed for this moment. She saw all she needed to see, shining in his eyes.

She took his hand and he gently led her on to their next adventure…

But she was hopeful…

Photo of lady crabbing at Bushy Park in South Carolina. Photo by Stephanie A. Mayberry

Photo of lady crabbing at Bushy Park in South Carolina. Photo by Stephanie A. Mayberry

There are some photos that just beg to be taken. I have one such photo as the background for my business cards. This is another that I captured by a happy chance.

She sat alone, patiently waiting to hoist up her crab pot, hoping for a big catch. She had not had much luck yet, but she was hopeful…